I’ve been through all the relationship rollercoasters you can imagine.

Married - twice.
Divorced - twice. 
All by the age of 40.

And now, 5 years after we separated, I've reconciled with my second ex-husband and father to our beautiful son. 

This did not happen overnight. It took years of work. 

But before I could even consider the possibility of reconciling with him - which if you'd asked me a few years ago if I ever would, I definitely would have said that there was zero chance of that ever happening, - I had to face the most challenging relationship of all - 

The relationship with myself. 

For so long, I pointed the finger of blame at my ex. As far as I was concerned, the demise of our relationship was all his fault. I essentially took zero responsibility for the place we'd gotten to, which now looking back, I see was delusional. And also a form of self-protection. 

So here's a peak at the journey I went on from there - 

After a few years of numbing, distraction, partying etc., I began to realise that firstly, all of the above wasn't genuinely helping me. It all felt shallow and meaningless and I was craving a deeper experience from life. 

In addition to that, in any new relationship I tried to form, I was coming up against the same or similar issues to what I'd experienced in my two marriages. 

It was time for me to face some hard truths.

I had to face the truth about the unresolved pain and trauma I was bringing to my intimate relationship every day. 

How I was keeping people at a distance as a way to keep myself safe.
How old modelling of love relationships didn't work for me anymore. 
How intimacy and being raw and vulnerable scared me. 

I had to undo years and layers of social conditioning and people-pleasing that was no longer serving me. 

I had to learn to put true, embodied boundaries in place that allowed me to show up as my truest self, with courage. 

From here I journeyed into the depths of greater pleasure and presence - two key ingredients to creating a deep and connected long-term relationship. Neither of which I had previously attended to.

I learnt to release the guilt and shame around wanting more - more pleasure, more purpose, more of me - within and beyond my relationships.

I learnt how to open my heart without fear. How to speak my truth without fear. 

And I learnt that no matter what, I was safe within myself and that my love, pleasure, sensuality and sexuality would always be self-sourced and mine to give.

It was through this powerful journey that I was able to open myself up to the possibility of reconciliation with the man I never stopped loving. 

This is the journey I now guide other women like you, through. 

A journey that allows you to reclaim yourself and thus the relationship you truly want - one of fullness, fire, and passion.

Without burning your relationship to the ground first.