Create the relationship you want - whether you're saving yours, reconciling or starting fresh.
Relationships & Reconciliation is a 12-week group program for men and women in the middle of a relationship crisis who can't stop reaching out, can't stop thinking about them, and haven't found the answers in therapy.
Go from panicked and urgent to grounded, secure and magnetic, so you can create the relationship you want.
You check your phone before you've even opened your eyes.
"I wake up every morning hoping they've texted me."
You know what you're supposed to do. You've read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe done therapy. But knowing it, understanding it, hasn't made it any easier.
"I know I need to give her space, but it's just so hard."
You miss more than the relationship - you miss the person you turned to for everything.
"I really miss having them as my person, someone I could just reach out to and chat with and feel connected to."
"I can't stop messaging her or checking if she's online... I know I need to stop, but my nervous system is just all over the place."
Maybe you're still together, but it feels like you're losing them.
Maybe it's already over.
Or maybe you're in the in-between, with no idea how this ends.
And somewhere underneath the panic, you've started to realise something:
"I don't know if we're going to reconcile, but I know that no matter what happens, I need to do this work on myself now so I'm ready for whatever happens next."
If that's you, you're in the right place.
- You wake up every morning feeling grounded, settled and secure.
- You’re no longer at the mercy of the next text, or the next silence.
- You know what to do when the panic rises, and you can let it pass without acting on it.
- You can have a hard conversation without defending, deflecting or shutting down.
- You hold a boundary without guilt or explanation.
- You've reconnected with the parts of your life - and yourself - that got lost in the relationship.
- If there's a path back to your partner, you're walking it as someone they can feel emotionally safe with.
- And if there isn't, you're walking into your next relationship without carrying the same wounds or repeating the old, unhelpful patterns.
- Feels grounded, secure and confident regardless of what’s going on around them
- Responds instead of reacting
- Knows their worth without needing someone else to say it
- Attracts love from a full cup, instead of an empty one
Now imagine this…
Let me guess…
Why understanding hasn't helped...
You understand your situation perfectly - how things got to this point, the part you played, and the triggers that set you off. And yet, in the moment, you still can't stop the impulses that sabotage your chances of reconciling or moving forward.
That's not a lack of willpower.
Understanding is the first step, and it’s important. But insight lives in your head. In your intellect.
When your relationship feels under threat, your nervous system takes over, what you know gets drowned out by what you feel, and old survival patterns show up again: chasing, over-explaining, people-pleasing, fixing, deflecting, pulling away.
That's why tactics like crafting the perfect text and going no-contact as a strategy or power move so often fall apart in the moment that matters.
And it’s also why relying on willpower alone leaves you exhausted and questioning why you can’t just stick to what you promised yourself you’d do.
In R&R, we start with the understanding, but then we take it into your body, so it sticks.
Once you've felt that shift - rather than just understood it - you no longer need to force yourself to act differently.
You simply embody the person who does.
I kept seeing the same thing - in my clients, and in myself.
People in the hardest season of their relationship were offered two options: tactics and "win them back" programs, or support that helped them understand what went wrong but didn't help when the panic hit at 2am.
Nobody was showing them what to do with the panic itself, let alone the basic relationship skills most of us were never taught.
R&R is the program I wish I'd had. It's a 12-week group coaching program for men and women navigating a relationship in crisis - whether you're still in it, have just come out of it, or are somewhere in between.
By the end, you'll feel grounded and secure instead of panicked.
You'll know how to settle your nervous system when the urge to reach out hits.
You'll understand the patterns you bring to love, hold boundaries without guilt, and show up as someone you're proud of - whether that's with your partner or in a new chapter.
Why I created R&R
R&R is built on three stages:
It's designed for you if:
You're still together, but it's on the edge.
You're ready to do your part fully, whatever your partner chooses.
You've broken up and the pain isn’t resolving.
You know a "get them back" formula isn't the answer - the real work is on you.
Reconnect
With yourself first, then with love, from a grounded place
Rebuild
Uncover the beliefs and patterns behind how you love, and rebuild your self-belief, self-trust and self-worth
Regulate
Calm the panic and urgency so you can think clearly again
You're in the in-between.
You're separated or in no-contact, and you want to use this time well - for your relationship's best chance, or for a healthier next chapter.
You’ll go through it alongside people who understand exactly what you’re living through - guided by someone who’s lived it and come out the other side.
(valued at $1,999)
Zoom calls for live hot seat coaching, training and support for each module.
What you get inside R&R
(valued at $1,777)
Access from the comfort of your own home, available to you at all times so you make the most of your growth inside the program.
(valued at $1,997)
Telegram community chat group for daily support and celebration. Ask a question any time of day and receive support from a peer or myself Monday-Friday during business hours.
(valued at $444)
A guided audio to help you drop deeper into your body, calm the nervous system and expand beyond your current capacity.
(valued at $177)
Get clear on whether reconciliation is possible, whether you’re truly ready to reach out, and what you really want, before you make your next move.
Over 12 weeks, we’ll be covering the following topics in our six live calls
Calming the spiral.
Between calls you’ll have access to highly supportive resources to guide you along your journey.
When to reach out, when not to, and what to do with the urge.
Stop second-guessing every message - and stop sending the ones you'll wish you hadn't.
Tools to settle the panic, racing thoughts and urgency.
Get through the hardest days without making decisions you regret.
Navigating no-contact and communication.
Challenging long-held beliefs about love.
Identify the beliefs driving your self-sabotaging behaviour such as, "If I put their needs first, it proves I'm worthy of love."
Unhelpful beliefs lose their grip on you and how you show up. in your relationships.
Identifying and holding embodied boundaries.
Honouring their boundaries and rediscovering your own.
Relearn what you are and aren’t available for in relationship and stay connected in the relationship without abandoning yourself.
Rebuilding you and creating a life you’re obsessed with.
Reconnect with your passions, self-trust and self-worth outside the relationship.
You stop waiting for them to make you happy and start living a life that’s yours - one the right person is drawn to precisely because it doesn’t revolve around them.
Magnetism.
Attract the right person by leaning into the feeling of what you want, instead of holding tight to a particular outcome.
The right person - whether that’s your partner or someone new - is drawn towards you, instead of you chasing them.
It was well and truly done. Emotionally. Legally.
But then… things changed.
What brought us back together wasn't the right words or the right strategy. It was the work we both did on ourselves.
His work meant a complete shift in energy that I was drawn to. An emotional safety that hadn’t been there before.
The work I did on myself was embodiment work - learning to regulate my nervous system, understanding the role I'd played, and letting go of patterns I'd carried for years. Learning how to stay open and present so that when the topic of reconciliation came up, I didn’t shut it down or dismiss it.
Now I coach men and women through the same territory, using the somatic, embodiment-based approach that changed everything for me.
Want to hear more about my story and approach?
Listen to The Reconciliation podcast on Apple or Spotify.
Don’t just take my word for it, hear from others who have already worked with me:
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What happens after you apply?
After you’ve submitted your application form, I will:
1. Review it personally - and reply within 2 business days.
2. Offer you a quick call if you want to talk it through in a bit more detail.
3. Secure your place - if R&R is the right fit, I'll send your payment link and welcome details.
Group support for 3 months
$997
Payment plans options available beginning at $92/week
R&R VIP
R&R Group
Group support + 1:1 calls
$1,697
Payment plans options available beginning at $155/week
☑️ Live group calls
☑️ Live group recording access
☑️ 6 x video, audio and written resources
☑️ Unlimited Telegram group support
☑️ Guided embodiment audio (BONUS)
☑️ Reconciliation Guide (BONUS)
☑️ Live group calls
☑️ Live group recording access
☑️ 6 x video, audio and written resources
☑️ Unlimited Telegram group support
☑️ Guided embodiment audio (BONUS)
☑️ Reconciliation Guide (BONUS)
☑️ 1 x 1:1 call with Bella per month (3 in total)
Will this get my partner back?
I can't promise that, and honestly, nobody can. R&R isn't a "get your ex back" program. What it does is change you - how you regulate, communicate and show up. That meaningfully improves your chances. And if things don't go the way you hope, you'll go into your next chapter without the same wounds. Staying stuck in the same patterns is the only thing that guarantees nothing changes.
I've tried therapy and books already. Why would this be different?
Most approaches work on your thinking. R&R works with your nervous system first, so you can integrate what you’ve learnt into the body and truly shift the needle in how you feel and how you show up.
How is R&R different from working with you 1:1?
R&R teaches the foundations - the framework, tools and practices everyone in a relationship crisis needs, learned alongside people who understand. 1:1 coaching is built entirely around you: your relationship, your history and your specific patterns, with more personalised sessions and direct support between them. VIP sits in between, adding three private calls to apply the R&R framework to your situation. If you want the full depth of personalised support, 1:1 coaching is the place for that.
How much time will it take?
A 60-minute call every second week, plus a short resource to use between calls. Recordings will be available in the Live Call portal if you miss a call.
Is it for men too?
Absolutely. R&R is for men and women - nervous system patterns and attachment wounds don't belong to one gender.
My partner doesn't know I'm doing this.
That's absolutely fine. This is about your part - you don't need anyone else involved.
I'm in no-contact. Will this push me to reach out?
No. Call 2 covers no-contact in depth, including how to sit with the urge without acting on it.
Why is there an application?
Because the group works best when everyone in it is ready for this kind of work. It also lets me make sure R&R is genuinely right for your situation before you invest.
Can I pay in instalments?
Yes. Once you're accepted, you can pay in full or choose a payment plan. Please note that the cheapest option is to pay upfront. Once you’re signed up, please note that there will be no refunds.
I'm still not sure it's right for me.
Send me a DM on Instagram @bellakcoaching with "R&R" and let’s chat!
You might be wondering...
R&R is for you if you're in a relationship crisis - still together but on the verge of it falling apart, broken up, or somewhere in between - and you're ready to do the work on your side, whatever the outcome.
In 12 weeks, you can go from panicking at every silence, to feeling steady in yourself.
From repeating the same patterns to understanding and changing them.
From waiting for someone else to decide your future to creating the relationship you deeply desire.
The doors to R&R open in early November 2026, with limited places to ensure everyone gets real attention on the calls.
If you're ready to stop surviving this and start changing it
I read every application personally and will reply within 2 business days.
I can’t wait to welcome you into R&R!